I could make another excuse why I haven’t updated this thing. I could chalk it up to being busy, lazy, writer’s block, etc. Would that be accurate? Maybe so. However, I also did relocate to about 2 hours from my hometown to put down some fresh roots. To snap from the tree I was grown from and fly high into the air to plant myself firmly in the fertile soil of Buffalo. A city that I believe has been unfairly looked down upon.
The decision to move was not one I took lightly, nor was it a difficult decision either. To leave everything that you know and to go to somewhere where you don’t really know anyone with a population of well over a million people is terrifying. I truly believe all the good and bad events in my life prepared me for the move. Amie and I have never had it easy. Some of it was self inflicted gun shots from our inexperienced youth, but a lot of it was the lifted veil of how terrible a lot of people in this world are. Once you know this and begin making conscious decisions of how you want to live your life is when you truly begin living.
We looked at a lot of different possibilities of where to move. Buffalo, Baltimore, Portland (ME), Philadelphia, Pittsburgh. We love the East Coast. At least I do. We’ve traveled a lot in the past 10 years and once you see enough places you’ll notice there’s not a huge difference in places. People are people. Buffalo was the closest major city. We’ve visited there many times growing up, seen countless concerts, but never really knew how living there day to day would be like. There’s no way of knowing how that would be anywhere when you’ve lived in the same small city all your life.
Amie and I had been at the same job for four years. We lost 3 out 4 of our parents within that time frame. With our original roots gone, it was the best time to move on and find somewhere new. October 2015 we realistically started at looking how we could coordinate a move. What can we afford vs. where do we want to be. We didn’t want to move for the sake of just doing it. We settled on Buffalo. It was the easiest to do and checked off most things off our want list. Job opportunities, sports teams, a variety of bars/music venues, green space, easy access to work/other places we might want to visit.
We spent a lot of time researching on areas in/near Buffalo. We pretty much found where to avoid, and then we were good to go. It was trial and error of finding an apartment. Dear God, there are a lot of them. A lot are awful and even more are amazing but priced accordingly. We made a list and hit the road in January to find our new home. Not really what we planned, but we had to see these places in person before we made a decision. Let’s just say we signed a lease that day for a place that wasn’t even on our list. The deal we got was so amazing that we couldn’t turn it down. It had to happen fast. We didn’t plan on moving until the spring/summer, but our move in date was now three weeks away. Life has a way of keeping you on your toes. However, as I sit here now writing this in said apartment in North Buffalo in May of 2016, I can safely say that this move was the best thing I’ve ever done.
Everything about the move went so smoothly. Except for well the blizzard on the entire day we loaded up the truck and drove to, but hey, that’s life. We also moved up here without jobs in hand. A good resume and a prayer to a God I don’t believe in is all we went on. It wasn’t long before we both were offered jobs in our fields of expertise with pay that made me upset about the lack of care my past jobs had for their employees. We’ve made friends with our co-workers, and I can’t speak for Amie, but I feel like I’m at home.
We’ve gone back to Jamestown a few times. I don’t miss it at all. Scout’s honor. There’s really nothing about the place that makes me yearn to come back. I’ve been trying not to bash the city, but I feel like I’m finally living where and how I want to. It feels amazing to take that control over your life after a downward spiral. Amie and I’s relationship has always been strong. It’s the one constant in my life. We finally separated ourselves from the negativity and realized that was the problem the whole time.
I strongly advise anyone looking to change their lives, just do it. Be the best person you can be, and surround yourself with like-minded people. In the end, it’s your life. So make it good for yourself and for the people around you. Create a web of positivity and let the negative struggle to survive. Things get better if you are trying to make them better. Don’t become stagnant. I did, and almost got stuck in that godforsaken town.
Now I got that Buffalove in my veins.